Wednesday, October 29, 2014

We are not ourselves, by Matthew Thomas



A long and often difficult book to read, although I found it hard to put down.  Eileen Tumulty is a first generation Irish-American.  Having become the caretaker for both her alcoholic parents, she goes into nursing as an obvious career choice.  She is anxious to make something of her life so when she meets a handsome and brilliant research scientist through a friend, she falls in love with both him and the opportunities such a match may bring.  After their son Connell is born, she is determined to leave the three family house, located in a demographically changing neighborhood in Queens, which she has inherited from her parents.  Her husband Ed seems oddly resistant to moving from the familiar area, but she perseveres and they buy a house that needs enormous amounts of renovation but which is in the upscale neighborhood she so wishes to live in.  Unfortunately, Ed’s resistance to change is the first real symptom of a much deeper problem.  As Ed descends into early-onset Alzheimer’s disease, Eileen struggles to care for him, make necessary repairs to the home, and deal with an adolescent son who finds it difficult to impossible to be around his beloved father as he changes beyond recognition.  For anyone with even a passing acquaintance with dealing with being a caretaker for a family member, it will ring heartbreakingly true.  We root for Eileen, desperately shoring up a normal life against all odds.  620 pp.

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