Showing posts with label coping (or not). Show all posts
Showing posts with label coping (or not). Show all posts

Thursday, December 6, 2018

Grief works


Grief works: stories of life, death and surviving / Julia Samuel, 272 pgs.

Julia Samuel has been a grief counselor for 25 years and here she tells some personal stories of people coping with death.  She has sections on death of a partner, a child, a sibling, and dealing with your own death. Somehow we are all going to deal with death but we still aren't good at it.  Your grief and sadness are totally normal.  It seems like we should try to get better at it as a group.  This book might help.  It is very well done and I hope it will prevent me from saying something stupid next time.

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Jillian

Jillian / Halle Butler, 227 pgs.

Megan works in a doctor's office with Jillian, a woman more than 10 years older who is irrationally optimistic and cheery even as her life is spinning out of control.  Megan is also losing her mind as her friends and acquaintances are building "real" lives while she is stuck looking at colonoscopy pictures to file in a mundane job with the irritating co-worker.  She even sort of hate and resents her boyfriend who is, generally, supportive and nice to her.  Jillian is on the verge of being crazy.  A single mother receiving no support from the father of her child, her car is impounded but she makes up a story about being in an accident and scores a sympathy pain reliever script from on of the doctors in her office. Jillian imposes on a friend from church to transport her child to and from day care because she can't afford to get her car back.  She makes poor choice, after poor choice, adopting a special needs dog that she can't take care of and liberally overusing her pain meds, even at work.  Megan is becoming so hateful, she really can't manage a nice facade at a party and ends up in a fight with long-time friend Amanda.  Megan's boyfriend begins to have doubts about the sanity of remaining in the relationship as Megan continues to become more unhinged.  Somehow, parts of this are very funny and you feel real sympathy for both of these women who continue down their chosen paths no matter how badly you want them to revise their direction.